How to Conquer Hard Feelings

So was your boss critical of you today?  Your spouse uninterested?  A kid unappreciative?

There are so many ways that the seed of a hard feeling is planted.  I am a master gardener of cultivating a negative seed.  I can play it out over and over in my mind, come up with a million alternate scenarios that I guess I think might happen if we enter an alternate universe.  I can plot elaborate revenge schemes that would never see the light of day.  Yes, scary.  My husband on the other hand, other than thinking girls can be crazy, has a way of simply letting things go.  He can shrug his shoulders, go out and mow the grass and forget it ever happened.  Yes, I admire him and wanted to cultivate this in my own garden.  How?  A question I’ve asked for quite some time and I think I may have found some solutions.

  1.  Consider the source of the slight.  Are you mad over an internet comment from someone who won’t even use their real name?  Are you seriously going to be upset at PuffKitty74? No.  If it’s a slight from a family member it might  sting more but I often have to consider that we are not all the same. My husband the sage always says that although “I” would never do that other people have different sensibilities and internal rules.  Make allowances for that.
  2. Articulate your feelings in a journal.  Be careful not to let your journal become a book a negativity but write down your feelings and then make a bulleted list of solutions.  Think of it as a solution journal.
  3. Go run.  If need be, pick up a rock.  When I’m really mad, I pick up a rock at the beginning of my run.  I run hard and give myself permission to be mad.  I can turn the rock over in my hand as thought it were the literal problem.  When I reach the turn around point,  I drop the rock.  I also tell myself I’m dropping the hard feelings too.  I turn around and head home leaving those thoughts behind me.  I dare you to run hard and think about troubles.  It can’t be done.
  4. Harkening back to #1, as my husband says, “You would never do that, but they are not you.”  He’s right.  Sometimes you have to accept that you are better, the bigger person and the one who will suck it up.  It’s okay to feel superior sometimes.  Pull your positive energy and stay high on your mountain.  Live your life with that knowledge.



Free Printable

nove free printable

Click HERE to get this month’s free printable.  This month I’m featuring a task list. I personally like half size planners as I’m more likely to carry them with me if it isn’t a chore.  This task list will help you mange your work to do’s as well as your home ones.  I find that by starting off each day with a good plan of what I want to accomplish will set me up for success.  Print, cut in half and bind into your favorite planner.  Happy organizing!

Garmin 220

Been vacillating a lot around different running apps the past couple of years.  Loved Nike when it first came out, then found their watches glitchy and would often not upload workouts.  Also, Nike watches (expensive ones) seemed to only have a lifespan of about a year before I’d have to replace it.  They were under warranty but it gets old going through that claim process to replace a watch before it’s 1-year birthday.  I moved on to the app Strava which my husband loves but found I didn’t always like running with my phone.  As much as I love a good podcast, sometimes I just want to run with my thoughts.   Additionally, if you are listening to music with Strava, it would sometimes seem to mess up.  Auto pausing in the wrong place or stop talking to you.

One of my goals this year had been to run more intentionally.  Not just eek out miles but to put on some intensity with them.  All research points to the fact that intensity is going to trump duration.  With that said, I bought a $200 watch.  Gulp.  The Garmin Forerunner 220.  That was a serious chunk of change for a running watch.  That’s a plane ticket to a lot of places.  Anyway, having had the watch for a month now I have no buyers remorse.  It’s been wonderful.  I love just looking down at any moment and seeing my pace.  I’ve started picking up that pace.  When I realize I’m lost in thought I look down and realize I’m now cruising at an 11:00 mile. Time to get going.

It also lets me program in intervals such at run 1200m then rest 400m or it can do it by time such as run hard for 3 minutes and rest 30 seconds.  It takes any distance and time variation with ease.

Another huge advantage is no uploading.  My watch pairs with my iPhone when they are near each other without me a doing a thing and all of my stats are up on Garmin Connect for further analysis or bragging on Facebook/Twitter.

$200 is a lot of money.  So are buying organic apples, my thyroid supplement, healthy lunches for my kids, etc.  These are things where your money should go.  Running and eating better will hopefully see me through a happy and healthy life.  In my opinion, the Garmin 220 has been money well spent.